Corpse Bride

"I'm going to be a corpse bride", my friend Jaja told me while cutting the special papers for her wedding invitation. It was my off yesterday. After i go to RTC Pasig to notarize my passport, i dropped by at the house to cook for a dinner and then i went to Jaja's pad since it's been 3 weeks since the last time i saw her at church.

She was surprised when she saw me walking on the way to her door and she yelled, Kathy!!!
Jaime was there, sitting at the floor since Jaja asked him for some help because the Kidsters will be having a program and Jaja needs to make some salvation bracelets for them on Saturday.

Jaja was busy in making her wedding invitations since her big day will be on April 24, 2009, Friday that will be held at our church. Honestly, I am so happy for her - coz at least she will be able to marry the man that she really really loves, Richmond. I really don't know him that much since the last time i saw him in person was way back in April 2006. It was just a hi and hello conversation at that time and i was not that much close to Jaja.

And as time goes by, me and Jaja bumped and started to talk about our relationship with our men since we are both in a long distance relationship. I shared some of my experiences, our problems and how do we solve it in just one click of a mouse lol. Joke.

Most people surrounded us doesn't believe of this kind of relationship. They say., it won't work and some are asking me, how can you trust someone if you don't even see what he is doing when you go offline. Well, for me - it depends. Not all people can have this kind of relationship. This is a tough one and i should say that it takes a lot of hardwork, money and patience! Yes money - getting a laptop, webcam and an internet provider costs you a money.. Sending her/him some cards, gifts or packages also costs you some money for her/him to show how you love them. It's no difference from a relationship where the guy and the girl usually go out and have some dinner in a fancy resto, buying her some clothes or perfumes or whatever she likes - its just the same and more expensive!!

What is worst is in LDR is you wouldn't be able to see your partner for 5 to 12 months ad sometimes 2 years! That's crazy! You miss her/his kisses and hugs - it's killing me everyday!

But as the years goes by - you're going to adapt the situation. You're more confident that you're partner is being faithful and trying her/his best to be that good person even you dont see him personally. All you need is just some high leap of faith and trust. No matter how long it is for you to see your loved one, in the end - its worth the wait. The years that you've been waiting is not a waste of time but a great reward.

The best feeling is to know that someone is loving you inspite of who you are and where you came from. And the most wonderful experience in life - is to marry the one you just met somewhere down the road, internet, workplace, pantry, party, park or somewhere but that person is the only reason why you want to live for the rest of your life.

To my friend Jaja, i do pray that GOD will truly bless you and Mond as the years goes by. I know you've been through hell but GOD is always faithful and He makes things happen at the right time. You might feel hurt sometimes and dont know the reason behind those pains but GOD has its own purpose and one day He will reveal it. Be a good wife (as always naman) and i know you will be a very wonderful mother to your children.

To Richmond, i really dont know you that much but i hope and pray that you will be a loving and responsile husband to my friend Jaja. She is the best jewel that you got in your life, so please take care of her and please be sensitive enough to know her needs not just financially but most especially spiritually and emotionally. Life will not be the same like what you do when you we're single - this is the next journey that you and Jaja will be living as ONE. Your body is not yours anymore and so with her and before you make any move or decision - you have to confide it first to her since she is now your behalf. It might sound akward but that's how the marriage life goes...

Make it a good and memorable journey Mond and Jaja.

BTW, i'm just 2 to 4 hours away from Virginia..Ja, i'm just a dial or text away =)


Your friend,
Kathy